Happy New Year to you! How good is it to have a few days break? My husband and I are tag teaming with work from our family’s beach house, and even though it’s a bit cold and bleak today, it’s so lovely to have a change of scene. It’s great to shake up a routine once in a while, don’t you think?
It’s particularly useful as I think about how I’m going to give effect to the guiding word I’ve chosen for 2017. This is something I’ve done for the past two years.
In 2015, I chose ‘enough’ (reflecting on the fact that I have, do and am worthy enough). That was helpful in giving myself permission to work out why I didn’t fully believe this – what some of my barriers were. In 2016, I chose ‘progress’ – not looking to set targets that were unrealistic or designed for compassion against others. In some ways that was helpful. But in others, it let me avoid achieving a goal at all – I could continue to be introspective instead. Because I never really defined – clearly enough – what I meant by progress and therefore I never really had to start. I stayed in the works of reflection, spirally around and around.
Managing the fear
This year, it’s time to act. And when I think about that, I feel fearful.
- What if I fail (against some measure?
- What if I embarrass myself?
- What if I let others down?
- What if I have to experience that unpleasant falling sensation, those knots in my stomach, that scariness?
- And what if I have to open up, if I have to risk shifting my self opinion, if I have to rely on others, or rely on myself?
When I write this, I realise that these are reasons of avoidance, and they are exactly the reasons I need to address these fears, and the only way I can do so is to trust.
Trust turns fear on its head. It will mean learning:
- To trust in my opinions, in my abilities, in my potential to learn and improve.
- To deepen my relationships, to connect more authentically with others.
- To allow myself to explore, and not just why I find something hard, but flipping it to the positive.
- To find out what I do want to and how new experiences can be exciting. How enjoying what we have in a new way can breathe new life into them.
- And how much bigger and how much more opportunity exists in the world, even if I’ve narrowed it down over the past couple of years.
When I’ve been thinking of my word, I’ve been staring at it a lot.
And I’ve noticed that ‘Trust’ contains the word ‘US’.
I don’t have to do it all on my own.
But it also means opening up more.
- By really trusting those who I love – and love me – I don’t have to make the choice between doing it on my own or not doing it at all.
- Friends and family can help each other, brainstorm solutions and step in to guide each other.
- I also have, in theory, God – if I’d be more open to rebuilding this relationship, which I’ve let slide.
Which also means opening up more. Slightly scaring – but how much richer could life become?
Other One Words for 2017
A lot of us bloggers have chosen a word to guide the year, thanks to leadership of Maxabella Loves.
Pop over to her blog to read up on other great ideas.
Denise Whelan has also created a link up from other bloggers, for more inspirations. Check out her post on ‘kindness’, as well as many other posts!