Some blog posts require reblogging because the topic still applies. And that is to topic of knowing when to hold on, and when to let go.
This time it’s how best to support my daughter navigate a path between being oversensitive and standing up for herself at school. The urge to ‘make it better’ is strong but, provided it doesn’t go too far, her teachers and us as parents are better placed in helping her help herself. It is a slow process, but there is progress nonetheless. We can see that she is developing greater awareness, including self confidence without being self absorbed, kindness without being a doormat (although, of course, there are lapses in all of these, and that’s to be expected). Importantly, this won’t continue for ever – there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And it’s a tunnel she needs to travel through – we can be there, but we can’t carry her through it.
What’s your biggest challenge as a parent?
I’ve never thought of myself as a particularly clingy parent. I’ve happily let my kids go to play at other people’s homes and have sleepovers from a fairly young age (hey, I’ve even encouraged them – the peacefulness when we have a break from each other can be so lovely!)
But every now and again, I feel a slight pain. A twinge, seeing my kids growing up. While I remain (in the main) very proud of them, it reminds me that they won’t be here with us for ever. And, in fact, progressively, they are learning, and becoming independent. And, of course, we’re not expecting a complete separation, but with adult children in the future, the relationship will, and should be, very different. Sometimes I feel relief at the thought (or even disbelief, on those days when I feel like a broken record, repeating the same messages which don’t seem to register. Grrr)…
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